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21條通往理想生活的真理

By: Barrie Davenport

翻譯：darkblue1213

Who is in the driver’s seat of your life? Your job? Your family? The changing wind of life’s circumstances?

Ask yourself, “Is my life the way I want it to be?” If not, what is blocking you from jumping in the driver’s seat of your life?

捫心自問(wèn)，“這樣的生活真的是我想要的嗎?”如果不是，那又是什么使你無(wú)法掌舵自己的生活呢?

Sometimes, it feels impossible to take control when you are stuck in a job you dislike because it pays the bills. Or when you can’t find a job. Or when you know your friends or family will reject you if you choose a different life path.

有些時(shí)候，生活的確很難主宰，當你為了維持生計不得不做自己不感興趣的工作，或是苦苦求職，亦或是冒著(zhù)眾叛親離的風(fēng)險轉變生活之路。

Life can sometimes be like a sticky spider web — the more you struggle against it, the more stuck you become.

有時(shí)生活就像一張蛛網(wǎng)，痛苦掙扎，反倒越陷越深。

Yes, life does have limitations, some of which are unchangeable. But a very large percentage of our lives is in our control — enough to profoundly impact how fulfilled and happy we feel on a daily basis.

說(shuō)實(shí)話(huà)，生活不可能事事如愿，有些事無(wú)從改變。而我們能掌控生活的很多方面，足以在日常生活中很大程度上影響我們的幸福感和滿(mǎn)足感。

Just knowing that you have some control is enough to change your perspective from hopeless to optimistic.

僅僅是相信自己有掌控生活的能力便能使你轉悲觀(guān)為樂(lè )觀(guān)。

Creating The Life You Want

打造你心目中的理想生活

The very first step toward creating the life you want is to become a blank slate. Allow yourself to be open to some new ways of thinking, a different perspective. This may require you to shift some old beliefs or let go of your current “personal operating system“.

打造理想生活的第一步就是要返樸歸真。改換思路，接受一些新的觀(guān)點(diǎn)。這可能需要你摒棄一些舊觀(guān)念，改變一下你的自我運作模式。

When you begin to make small shifts in your thinking, you open big doors for new ideas and opportunities.

當你的思維模式發(fā)生細微轉變時(shí)，你便為自己開(kāi)啟了新的想法和新的機遇。

21 Truths to Living the Life Your Want 

21條讓你通往理想生活的真理

1.  Understand that sustained happiness rarely comes from outside circumstances. Your wealth, beauty, power, or acquisitions have far less to do with happiness than your appreciation for what you have this very moment and your loving relationships with others.

1、持久的幸福感很少來(lái)自于外部環(huán)境，在對幸福的感知上，你擁有的財富、外貌、權勢以及一切來(lái)自外部的收獲都無(wú)法與感恩此刻所擁有的一切或擁有人與人之間美好的情感所帶來(lái)的幸福感相提并論。

2. You can live your life by design, but you must acknowledge your power in that, plan for it, and take the necessary actions.

2、你可以精心設計自己的生活，但也必須明白自己的力量十分有限，你能做的是制定計劃并努力實(shí)現。

3. You can’t have it all, but you can have enough to be very happy. Prioritize and focus on the top 3 or 4 most important areas of your life.

3、你無(wú)法得到一切你想得到的，但你能擁有那些讓你快樂(lè )的。優(yōu)先致力于最重要的三到四個(gè)方面。

4. Stop focusing on what you don’t have or don’t like. Focus on what you do have and do like, and create a plan for what you think you can improve and change.

4、不要將精力放在你無(wú)法擁有或不感興趣的事物上。轉而投入那些你所擁有的，所熱愛(ài)的，為此制定計劃，盡力改善那些你認為有改進(jìn)余地的方面。

5. Abandon perfectionism. It is a useless pursuit with no end. It creates stress and unhappiness. Learn to find the balance point between good enough and peaceful living.

6. Put your own deepest needs first. If you are living for others before yourself and pushing your own needs aside, eventually you will crumble in some way — through depression, anger, anxiety or destructive behaviors.

6、將自己內心的需求放在首位。如果你總是將他人的需求放在自己之前將自己的放在一邊，那么你一定會(huì )崩潰的，可能會(huì )抑郁、憤怒、焦慮或做出一些過(guò)激行為。

7. Your choices may disappoint or offend others. That is sometimes necessary in order to grow and live authentically. Those who love you and want the best for you will accept and support you.

7、你的選擇可能會(huì )讓別人覺(jué)得失望或被冒犯。這其實(shí)是成長(cháng)所必經(jīng)的過(guò)程，切實(shí)的生活所必須付出的代價(jià)。那些愛(ài)著(zhù)你并為你著(zhù)想的人會(huì )包容并支持你的。

8. Count your blessings. You probably already have many of the things you want for your life. Don’t take them for granted.

8、細數你所得到的，你可能已經(jīng)擁有了很多生命中渴望得到的事物，切勿身在福中不知福。

9. Address personal issues head-on. Don’t use these as an excuse for not having what you want in life. If you have a wound, a personality or relationship problem, or an anxiety, go to a counselor and work on it. Resolve it. Weak people don’t go to counselors, but strong forward-moving people do.

9、直面你的煩惱，不要把他們成當做你生活不如意的理由。如果你有煩惱，例如個(gè)性不合或人際關(guān)系上的問(wèn)題，焦慮等，找人傾訴，尋求解答，并解決問(wèn)題。懦弱的人不去解決問(wèn)題，而堅強上進(jìn)的人則不會(huì )逃避。

10. Pick one small problem or irritation and resolve it. Feel how much personal power and energy that gives you. Imagine how it would feel to resolve one of your bigger problems or concerns.

10、從一個(gè)小問(wèn)題或小煩惱入手，去解決它們。感受你自身的力量和能力所能帶給你的一切，想一想如果能解決一個(gè)更難的問(wèn)題，消除一個(gè)更大的困擾會(huì )使怎樣的感覺(jué)。

11. Consider disengaging from people who bring you down or drain your energy. Build relationships with people who are positive, action-oriented, and supportive.

11、考慮遠離那些讓你難過(guò)，讓你產(chǎn)生無(wú)力感的人，和積極樂(lè )觀(guān)，勇于實(shí)踐，并能支持你的人做朋友。

12. Pick the one change that would make the biggest positive difference in your life. Begin visualizing your life with this change implemented. Practice this regularly throughout the day.

12、做出一個(gè)能讓你的生活最大程度上變得積極的改變，帶著(zhù)這個(gè)改變審視自己的生活，并在日常生活中不斷去實(shí)施。

13. Take this one step further and begin writing some specific action steps that might help make this change happen.

13、將上一步不斷加深，將一些能讓改變成真的具體步驟寫(xiě)下來(lái)。

14. Strengthen your strengths. Make yourself indispensable in your area(s) of interest and expertise.

14、使自己變得更強，使自己能獨立地在感興趣的、專(zhuān)長(cháng)的領(lǐng)域里自由馳騁。

15. Always leave time for fun. Make fun happen in your life.

15、總要給自己留下點(diǎn)時(shí)間做些讓自己開(kāi)心的事，讓快樂(lè )降臨你的生活。

16. Don’t neglect your relationships. Don’t take them for granted. Find out what makes your loved ones happy, and do that for them.

16.不要忽略了你的人際關(guān)系，不要認為朋友是理所當然的存在。好好找找讓你愛(ài)的人幸福的方式，并付諸行動(dòng)。

17. Learn to let it go. Worry is the most fruitless expenditure of energy on the planet. Very little is worth worrying about. If you must do something, take action instead.

17.學(xué)著(zhù)放下焦慮，焦慮是世界上最沒(méi)有用的了。沒(méi)什么事情是值得煩惱的，如果你非要做些什么，那就要行動(dòng)起來(lái)。

18. Don’t assume that you can’t do something. Prove that you can’t, and if so, try something else.

18.不要總是覺(jué)得自己做不到，如果你能證明自己的確做不到，再去嘗試些別的。

19. More often than not, your fear is the culprit for inaction.  More often than not, your fears are unfounded or at least out of proportion. More often than not, your fear will go away once you take action.

19.害怕有時(shí)是懶惰的罪魁禍首。時(shí)常，你的恐懼是可笑的，或者是沒(méi)有必要的。一旦你采取行動(dòng)，恐懼自然就灰飛煙滅了。

20. Focus on the task at hand. When you feel overwhelmed and pulled in many directions, just pick an important thing and do it without distraction. Then do another one.

20.集中精力干手頭的活，當你覺(jué)得生活毫無(wú)頭緒不知所措的時(shí)候，挑一件最重要的事，一門(mén)心思地去完成，然后再做下一件。

21. Life is short. You have a limited number of days on this Earth. There isn’t time to waste your days in worry, anger or frustration. Make the most of this moment and the next and the next and the next . . .

21.人生苦短，你能在這個(gè)世界上活蹦亂跳的日子并不長(cháng)。不能把寶貴的生命浪費在憤憤不平，挫折苦惱上。好好地活這一秒以及下一秒，下一分鐘，下個(gè)小時(shí)...

If you want to have a wonderful life, spend your days in positive, forward-moving action and thought. Dismiss your longings for what you don’t have. Enjoy the actions as much or more than the outcomes.

The real secret to having the life you want is learning to love the life that you have.

如果你憧憬美好的生活，積極的度過(guò)每一天，勇于實(shí)踐，富于思考。放下不切實(shí)際的愿望，享受過(guò)程，少在乎結果。

通往美好生活的密匙是熱愛(ài)你現在所擁有的生活。